This week we talked about how to deal with a family crisis. A crisis is when something occurs and that necessitates a change. There are different types of adjustments that come about.  We start out at a level with the pre stressor.  During the crisis that drops and then there are three outcomes, you are either level with the way you were before the crisis, lower than before, or higher than before.  The best outcome is the last one, becoming closer together because of a certain crisis. Hill came up with the ABC-X model. The A stands for the actual event or stressor, the B stands for both responses and resources or how we deal with it, and the C stands for cognition or the way we are thinking. Put those all together and you get the total eXperience.  Looking back at crises my family has gone through, using this model, I can see where we didn't handle things in the best way possible.  It also brought back a lot of memories and it was hard to relive them.  We don't get to decide the initial event, but we do get to decide our actions and outcomes. This will influence future events.